Wise Quotes from Pops, Part 1*
“You can pick your friends and you can pick your nose, but you can’t pick your friend’s nose.”
At first, this quote may strike you as a commentary on nasal hygiene. But it goes far deeper than that. Let’s take a closer look.
It’s true that you can pick who your friends are. You may have a common interest, a common enemy or you just stumble upon a set of circumstances that leads down a path to friendship. My dad has a few very close friends that he has known longer than I have been alive. Once he picks his friends, it’s final.
The next part of the quote speaks to free will. If you need to breathe a little better and a Kleenex simply won’t do, then who am I to judge? You are free to do whatever you need to do. I’m sure my dad would tell you to keep it private though. Nobody wants to see that.
The third part of this wonderful quote speaks to how you treat your friends. You can’t control what other people do. Even if you’re a clinical psychologist! If someone is truly your friend, you want to be supportive while also being honest with them about their choices. You can’t pick what they do or pick their nose. But you can offer them guidance when they need you.
* Gary’s son wants you to know a little bit more about what makes his dad so special, so he is sharing a series of “Quotes from Pops” with some of the wisdom that accompanies the laughter at Gary’s house. Please consider this thought as well: Share Your Spare!