My Beshert, My Soul Mate

ImageHi.  I am Marti, Gary’s wife.  This May 12th it will be thirty years since the day we met.  While much time has passed, I can remember the day we met like it was yesterday.

One day the phone rang as I was unpacking boxes; I had just moved into a new apartment as a single mom with my son, Ben.  It was my good friend and message therapist, Meg.  She told me she knows a guy that I might want to meet.  Would it be OK if she gave him my number? she asked.  With much trepidation, since I was just recently divorced, was working full time, had just moved, and was raising my two year old son as a single mom, I said, OK, but only if she made it clear to him that I have no interest in a serious relationship.  I would be willing to grab a meal or catch a movie, I explained.

A few days later the phone rang and it was this stranger, Gary, on the other end of the phone.   We had a good chat.  He seemed nice enough.  Then he asked me if I would like to get together.  I told him that would be fine but could he please call me back in a month. Surrounded by boxes, I was overwhelmed in our new apartment. With that, we got off the phone.

Exactly one month later the phone rang.  It was Gary again.  He asked if I wanted to come to Lincoln Park for a day at the zoo and a bite to eat. I agreed.

We rendezvoused at his place.  We walked, talked, laughed, ate, visited with the animals.  I knew that day we shared a special connection.  Never in a million years did I imagine that 30 years later we would still be sharing good times together.

Thank you, Meg, for introducing me to my Beshert.  Such a loving, kind, honest, fun, smart, romantic man named Gary.

Don’t get me wrong, it hasn’t all been fun, that is for sure.  Work and worries, joy and sorrow, dealing with small and big problems, navigating compromise – oh so much compromise, these years together.

But in the end, I feel like I am one of the luckiest gals around, to have partnered thirty years of my life with this man.

From the bottom of my heart, from the core of my being, I pray that some courageous, loving, generous person will step up and share their spare with my wonderful husband, my Beshert.

We have so much more life to share together, if we are just given the chance.

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6 thoughts on “My Beshert, My Soul Mate

  1. Sandee

    What a beautiful story! You are lucky to have each other to hold onto, each a pillar of strength for the other.

  2. Stuart Cohen

    A beautiful story. I hope you remember me, Marti. We went to NTW together. If you write up something about your husband and what he needs, I can send an email to our entire New Trier Class of 1970 database. Stuart

    • Marti Greenberg

      Hi Stuart. Of course I remember you. Thank you so much! I will write something for you to send out.
      We are so grateful for your support!! Hope all is well with you and your family.

  3. Algeria Meszaros

    What a wonderful story. Yes, I want to help. Please email me. Thanks!

    • Marti Greenberg

      Thank you very much for caring. The best way to help is to spread the word to everyone you know. You can do that by sending your network of people our website, Or if you are interested in being tested as a possible donor, you can download the health questionnaire by going to our help now tab which will take you to the page with the potential donor questionnaire. Fill that out and either fax it or mail it to Northwestern Memorial Hospital.

      Let me know if you need anymore information. With much gratitude, Marti & Gary

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